We all are born into the world that seeks approval of others. The struggle only continues and is fostered by low self esteem or lack of belief. We live in a world, that is constantly changing, yet some of us choose to conform to please others rather than standing up to them. These behaviors are so curious to me as to why are they afraid to speak for themselves. As I dig deeper into their soul, I see a certain fear. Fear of being alone, fear of abandonment, fear of being the odd. If one faces these fears, they can unleash much more than they are right now. Self love has been sort of stigma, a selfish act, even a taboo. The moment you say it out loud, you almost feel guilty of loving yourself before others. To those, I ask, how can you make someone happy, if you are miserable! Sacrifice is a noble thing, but not at the cost of misery. What good would that be and how would that justify to everyone else close to you? In this post, I really want to reflect on those thoughts that I see in everyday people behavior and ask them, why are you so adamant on not loving yourself!
Self love only means loving yourself and standing up for you. No is not a dirty word, especially with #metoo movement, I feel it is necessary! If you only please others, you are disappointing yourself and that is not a NOBLE act. Caring and appreciation is all good, but never when you are constantly doing injustice to one person, YOU! So, for this year, 2018, I ask you to be bold, fierce, and above all unapologetic for your behavior! (that is when they are in moral and legal standards). This year, and for more to come, Be free, let that energy flow from you and unleash the beautiful you; I bet you wont even need to make someone happy, because it would happen on its own!
So, next time someone makes you feel inferior, don’t dwell on those thoughts. Instead, communicate with them and let them know. And, if that does not work, Silence always has a way of letting someone know, you no longer care for their consent! As Eleanor Roosevelt said,“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are –completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”~ Louise L. Hay
Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”~ Lao-Tzu
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